Country song shines rare spotlight on male abortion trauma


With leftists constantly shouting about “a woman’s right to choose” and promulgating conspiracy theories like unborn babies i have no heartbeat, it can be easy to overlook the human and emotional cost of abortion. Yet the pain and suffering that accompanies the destruction of unborn life is real – for all parties involved, including humans. Enter country band Wilder Blue’s song “Dixie Darlin’,” a beautiful ballad that provides rare insight into the father’s often-overlooked perspective on abortion.

Dixie in “Dixie Darlin'” is averse to commitment, thirsty for experience, and likely suffers from the fear of missing out. She resists staying in one place and settling down with the man who loves her. Wilder Blue lead singer Zane Williams acts as the song’s narrator, recounting a tragic love affair with Dixie. The narrator is always there for Dixie, but as soon as she is in his arms, Dixie quickly hits the road. “She heard the freeway calling with the snow melting,” Williams sings. “I tried to get her to change her mind,” he croons, but it’s still to no avail and Dixie leaves him again and again.

The artist reveals that after Dixie’s father died, “she asked me if I wanted to hold her.” Despite Dixie’s habit of leaving, Dixie’s lover was there for her when she needed him and “held her up all week.” Love, stability, and emotional support weren’t enough for Dixie, and after that week she “loaded her saddle,” Williams sings, “and she kissed me on the cheek.” Again, Dixie’s lover “tried to change her mind”, but Dixie headed for the door.

Shortly after, Dixie calls her lover with devastating news:

Dixie called me late one night on Colorado time

She told me she was two weeks late and she knew it had to be mine

I wanted to start a family here in this small town

But in the end, she wasn’t ready to have a child and settle down.

In the next few heartbreaking lines, the artist returns to the chorus:

Dixie darling, did you find what you were looking for

Greener pasture, wilder blue

When I think about the things that really matter

I always wished I meant more to you

In the song, Dixie’s lover gave her everything he could. He offered her love and commitment. For some reason, however, Dixie wasn’t ready for that kind of devotion. It could be past trauma or maybe the secular world is scaring her (as it does for many other women) into believing that marriage and children mean giving up freedom and her dreams. . Whatever the reason, Dixie “wasn’t ready to have a child and settle down”, so she acted on her usual impulse, left and aborted their baby.

There is a sense of desperation in the upbeat nature of the song’s chorus. Dixie’s lover, like many other fathers, was completely helpless over his partner’s decision to kill their child. All he could do was helplessly chant that he hoped Dixie would find what she was looking for. As we all know, however, the grass never gets greener. If Dixie were real, she would probably realize that she walked away from a good man who loved her. She would also realize that pregnancies don’t just go away. Her baby wasn’t just a clump of cells and she can’t escape the fact that she aborted her own child or the crippling side effects of Post-abortion stress syndrome.

Dixie’s lover will also experience post-abortion trauma. Abortion can inflict emotional damage on fathers in different ways than on mothers, but the pain is no less real. Men crave responsibility and their main goal is to protect and provide for their families. What, then, could torment a man more than forcing him to sit idly by while his own child is killed? Even when men are ambivalent or supportive of their partner’s abortion, they report mental torment afterwards.

The male perspective of abortion is rarely explored in popular culture. This is partly because men are prone to deny grief and internalize feelings of loss and in part because the “woman’s right to choose” narrative has forced men to shut up. The musicians, television series, and movies have always come under scrutiny for humanizing unborn babies and highlighting the post-abortion trauma women experience. Dare to discuss Men’s trauma is even more taboo, at least in mainstream pop culture.

That’s the beauty of country music. Away from Hollywood and Los Angeles, free from the celebrity talk police and loved by a less politically correct fanbase, country music offers a space where songs like “Dixie Darlin'” can thrive.

That’s not to say country music is completely revival-free. racing bait or the jaw-dropping country/rap collaborations. Indeed, there is a force within corporate country to erase regional sounds and distort wholesome messages. However, there are fortunately many artists in the genre who still produce authentic country music with thoughtful lyrics and counter-cultural content. Indeed, “Dixie Darlin'” is hardly the first country song to fight against abortion and unplanned pregnancies.

Men deserve to be part of the abortion debate. They are the uncles, brothers, grandfathers and fathers of innocent people who lose their lives. Their trauma is real and valid. Our culture muzzles men while the music and media industries refuse to represent them, which is why songs like “Dixie Darlin'” deserve a listen and our support.

Evita Duffy is a staff writer for The Federalist and co-founder of the Chicago Thinker. She loves the Midwest, lumberjack sports, writing, and her family. Follow her on Twitter at @evitaduffy_1 or contact her at [email protected]


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